Greensburg Daily News, Greensburg, IN

News

January 3, 2014

Resolution for parents: Discipline, not punishment

Expert says discipline brings connection, punishment brings fear

INDIANAPOLIS – It isn’t among the list of typical New Year’s resolutions, like quitting smoking or losing weight. But one expert says a goal for 2014 of parenting through discipline instead of punishment can have life-long positive effects.

Ingrid Bauer is a mother of four and an expert on communication within families.

She says there’s a big difference between punishment - like spankings or time-outs, that may just teach children not to get caught next time - and discipline, which can teach values and bring parent and child closer.

“Working with a child in partnership, you gain their trust,” she says. “And the motivation for them to behave in ways that you hope that they will, and that will benefit them, comes from inside them, whereas punishment, it’s all motivated primarily through fear of something external, rather than being connected to why they’re doing something.”

Bauer adds a better strategy than meting out punishment when a child misbehaves is to talk with the child, try to understand why he or she acted out and then work together to change the behavior.

Bauer says using a discipline-based approach also works because, at the same time children are given expectations, they also learn that their needs matter as well.

“Having their parents really validate what’s important to them and knowing that they’re going to be considered, as well as their parents also telling them what’s important to them and what they’d like,” she explains. “And my experience is that over time when you build that relationship of trust naturally, if you let that flow of love happen, they want to contribute. It makes them feel good.”

Bauer leads workshops around the country on what she calls compassionate parenting, and is certified by the Center for Nonviolent Communication.

1
Text Only
News
  • nws-gb080114-allen pool summer pic-02 Few pool days remain before summer's end GREENSBURG — The calendar might not say winter is almost here, but for Greensburg and Decatur County school kids, summer’s ending draws near.Greensburg Community Schools return to classes Monday, while Decatur County Community Schools welcome student

    August 1, 2014 2 Photos

  • Colts lose 2nd starter with season-ending injury ANDERSON, Ind. — Colts left guard Donald Thomas will require season-ending surgery to repair his injured right quad.Coach Chuck Pagano said Thursday an MRI confirmed the diagnosis.Thomas also missed most of last season with a torn right quad in Week

    August 1, 2014

  • No Headline Provided Local clubs, service groups, fraternal organizations and others are encouraged to send their Coming Events information to the Daily News at news@greensburgdailynews.com or Daily News, PO Box 106, Greensburg, IN 47240.Aug. 18 a.m. to 5 p.m. – Plein-Ai

    August 1, 2014

  • nws-gb080114 meth bust photo 1 Four arrested on charges of conspiracy to manufacture meth GREENSBURG — Four Greensburg residents were arrested Wednesday afternoon by Indiana State Police on drug-related charges including conspiracy to manufacture meth. Authorities said the investigation is ongoing and they expect more arrests.At about 2 p

    August 1, 2014 4 Photos

  • nws-gb080114-dccs special meet headshot Hirings, resignations mark DCCS Board meeting GREENSBURG — In a brief special meeting Wednesday night, the Decatur County Community Schools (DCCS) Board formalized a number of new hires, resignations and retirements.DCCS Superintendent Johnny Budd told the Daily News that the need for the meetin

    August 1, 2014 1 Photo

  • nws-gb080114-safest cities pic Greensburg among state's safest cities GREENSBURG – Data collected by a home security resource company has placed Greensburg among the 10 safest cities in Indiana.Safewise.com, an online source for obtaining information about home security systems, recently selected the 50 safest cities i

    August 1, 2014 1 Photo

  • nws-gb073114 miss tree city preview photo Miss Tree City to be named in Saturday ceremony GREENSBURG — Five contestants will vie Saturday to serve as Miss Tree City and to reign over the Tree City Fall Festival in late September.The competition will be at 6:30 p.m. Saturday at the Greensburg Learning Center, 422 E. Central Ave. Admission

    July 31, 2014 1 Photo

  • nws-gb073114 Steam show 1 jpg Indiana Pioneer Engineers Club Steam Engine Show and Reunion starts today The 66th annual Indiana Pioneer Steam Engine Show and Reunion will be held beginning today and continue through Aug. 3 at Caldwell Acres, 3707 South CR 200W. For more than half a century, Rush County has hosted members and visitors from all over the

    July 31, 2014 2 Photos

  • Inside Indiana Business with Indiana with Gerry Dick Grants Boost Arts InitiativesMore than 260 groups and individuals are sharing in nearly $2.7 million to support arts programs. The Indiana Arts Commission says the funding is from federal and state sources and will go to organizations including the

    July 31, 2014

  • Thank you for helping fight child abuse Thank you for fighting child abuseDear Editor:My name is Bill Parsons, this year’s organizer of the Devin Lee Parsons Never Be Forgotten Ride, Fighting Against Child Abuse.I want to thank all our sponsors; you have all helped us get closer to our goa

    July 31, 2014