Greensburg Daily News, Greensburg, IN

September 12, 2013

Love knows no boundaries

Amanda Browning
Greensburg Daily News

Greensburg — GREENSBURG – A 25 year-old Greensburg man, Scott Goeft, has made a life for himself in the Shilin district of Taipei, Taiwan, with the love of his life, 21 year-old Joy Huang.

While on leave from work in 2011, Scott was introduced to a chat website by a friend. The site allows users to chat with people all over the world. Initially, he was unimpressed until he met Joy, who was on the site to practice her English. They spoke briefly that first night, about Joy’s religion, Tao, their cultures and her college education. They then exchanged emails to speak privately.

As they discovered common interests, they increased the frequency of their emails and started to chat using Skype, a free internet call service with the option for video chatting. Scott was very interested in Joy’s religion, as well as her desire to direct Broadway-style theatre. They got along very well and developed a deep friendship.

Eventually, they were speaking at least five hours a day, which, with the 12-hour time difference between America and Taiwan, was no small task. After a few months, the friendship deepened into something more and Scott confessed his love for Joy, which she returned.

Scott asked Joy to move to the United States so they could be together, but she wasn’t finished with her degree and had to decline. That conversation got them thinking how much they would like to meet in person and they began the process of him going for a week’s visit to Taiwan. Scott had to work hard and save enough money to make the trip.

In July of 2012, Scott traveled to Taipei, Taiwan to meet Joy in person. The two spent ten days together and it was a wonderful experience for both of them to discover they were as compatible in person as they were online. Traveling to the other side of the world was not a decision that was made lightly. It cost thousands of dollars and required a massive trust in each other, which was built over more than a year of talking daily.

When it was time for Scott to leave and return to the United States, Joy cried and asked him to stay. Scott wasn’t able to stay at the time, but he gave Joy a promise ring before he left Taiwan, swearing that he would return.

Six weeks after returning to America, Scott missed Joy fiercely. He said to his mother, Carla Moreland, “Mom, I want to go home.”

Confused, she replied, “You are home.”

With passion, Scoot answered, “No. My home is back there with Joy.”

And so, with the decision to try living in Taiwan made, Scott began the lengthy, in-depth process of moving to another country. He said he wanted to be near her and to learn the culture. Scott continued working to earn enough money to cover travel expenses and to establish himself in Taiwan.

It took more than $7,000, which was provided by both Scott and Joy. Countless hours of legal hassles and planning kept both of them busy. Scott sent Joy enough money to rent an apartment for him before he moved to Taiwan in February 2012.

Scott proposed to Joy when he arrived at the airport in Taiwan and she happily said yes. He celebrated the Chinese New Year with Joy and her family in January. The two were married March 28, 2013, in a small ceremony in Taiwan. They spent their honeymoon in Germany to visit his father, Thomas Goeft, and his family. Scott and Joy plan to come to the United States to visit Scott’s mother and stepfather, Randy Moreland, in January or February. Joy still has not met her in-laws, but they have spoken often through the internet.

Scott now works at a car wash in Taiwan and loves his life. Though he doesn’t speak Mandarin, he has managed to develop a great relationship with his coworkers.  Scott said he is learning to speak the language very slowly. He is currently only able to write his official Chinese name, which he was required to have in order to live there, and short love notes for Joy. Working at the car wash has taught him to speak some Mandarin, but he said learning to speak and write the language is one of the hardest things he’s ever attempted.

In the future, Scott would like to become a private English tutor to earn more money, but he is happy that the wage he earns now is enough to cover his portion of the bills he and Joy share. He said he doesn’t earn a lot, but he earns enough to provide for his wife. Joy also receives school money.

The love that Scott and Joy share and the obstacles they have had to overcome to be together has attracted quite a bit of attention. Multiple news stations and newspapers in Taiwan have done reports about Scott and Joy.

Not all of the attention has been supportive, however. Many of Joy’s friends and family didn’t know about their relationship beforehand, though her mother and grandmother helped them get married. People are slowly coming around and until then, both Scott and Joy are managing the situation and letting their love and happiness guide the way.

Scott’s mother reported that she and her husband did have some concerns about him going to the other side of the world. “We did have reservations about it. We were worried about him not speaking the language and finding a job and the dangers of being in another society. During his first visit, Joy had to warn Scott about the Chinese mafia and how they sometimes picked victims at random to make an example out of,” Moreland said.

“The second time, he’s adjusting well and they love him there. It’s much easier for me now,” she said. “We talk to him almost every day.”

The use of video chatting has been immensely helpful to Scott’s parents in regards to keeping in contact. Recently, his stepfather had surgery and Scott wasn’t able to return to the United States to be there in person.

“We were missing him terribly. My husband just had open-heart surgery and we took the laptop so Scott could say hi before he went into surgery. Scott told him, ‘Dad, you made it through Vietnam; you can make it through this,’” Carla said.

Scott and Joy are perfect examples that love can be found anywhere. When two people are meant to be together, speaking different languages or even being a world away from each other can’t keep them apart.

Contact: Amanda Browning 812-663-3111 x7004